To say that being a mother in this day and age is stressful would be a pretty huge understatement. Your children are the most precious beings in your life, but the journey of raising them from infants to upstanding adults can be a bumpy one. You’re constantly worried about their safety and wellbeing, wondering if you’re doing right by them, and always trying to live up to the expectations that society (and sometimes those closest to you) puts on mothers.
No one ever said that being a mother is easy, however, it would seem that today’s extremes have many women stressed to the max. They’re losing themselves, every aspect of their lives are falling apart and, as a result, some even become victims of addiction and mental illness.
If You’ve Reached This Point, Get Professional Help
There are a lot of internal and external factors that play a role in a woman’s chances of developing an addiction or mental illness. These factors range from genetics and traumatic experiences to hectic lifestyles and the responsibilities of motherhood. Should you find yourself struggling with being emotionally overwhelmed, having chronic stress, anxiety, depression, or addiction – ultimately, the best thing to do would be to get help. Whether it be from your doctor, a counselor, treatments like TMS therapy for depression, or massage therapy to treat stress, getting yourself out of the negative headspace is imperative to both you and your children.
Change Your Mindset, Change Your Life
A lot of the pressures of motherhood are tied to your mindset. If you focus on the negative, the stress, and the demands, you will continue to manifest these things in your life and the lives of your children. On the other hand, if you learn how to adopt a more positive mindset, it can change your life for the better. Here is a look at some positive mindsets women can adopt to conquer motherhood like a pro.
“I’m Not Perfect – So What!”
Though there are no physical examples of a perfect mother, society continues to pressure women into believing that somehow they must accomplish perfection. They need the looks, the career, the perfectly groomed children, the ideal marriage – all of it – to be defined as a good mother.
Reality check ladies. You’re not perfect and that’s nothing to be ashamed of. Your clothes won’t always be neatly pressed, your hair won’t always be combed, your kids will never be perfectly groomed, they’ll never behave perfectly, your job will always have highs and lows, your relationships will go through ups and downs, and none of this makes you a bad mother or woman. So what?? You’re not perfect! No woman walking this earth is.
“My Village Has My Back”
Some women get so wrapped up in being a supermom that they overwhelm themselves emotionally and physically. The truth is that it takes a village to raise children. It was never designed for mom to take on all the responsibilities. So, don’t be too proud or so wrapped up in being the perfect mom that you wear yourself out and neglect those that are in your life to help. Your spouse, co-parent, parents, siblings, friends, teachers, coaches, religious leaders, and other adult figures in your life – and in your children’s lives – are there to help ease the pressures of parenting. Call on them and don’t let the guilt or shame eat you up.
“Enjoy The Moments” (It Goes so Fast)
All too often women become so overwhelmed with the pressures of raising their children that they forget to stop and smell the roses. They conquer one battle and immediately start preparing for the next, instead of reveling in those precious moments. Your children won’t be children for too long. Before you know it, they’re going off to college and you’re home with an empty nest. Let your hair down, learn to laugh more, find your inner kid, and just enjoy every moment you can before it’s too late.
Eliminating all the stress and emotional pressures of being a mother completely is impossible. However, with the right mindset, you can go through this beautiful journey with your mental and physical wellbeing intact. Wake up every day with the idea that you’re not perfect (and don’t care), that you have support, and that you should learn to enjoy each day as best you can because time goes faster than you think. Of course, if you’re struggling with mental illness or addiction get the help you need so that you can be the best mother you can be for your children.